My Approach | Possible Futures Counselling and Psychotherapy

Therapeutic Approach

As a therapist, and throughout my life, I have learned that people grow through relationships and in relationships.This means that most of our problems are relational: they develop within our interactions with others, or as a result of the absence of meaningful connection—for example, by absence, i.e. not having significant people or support in times of difficulty; or having grown up with a narcissistic parent leading us to take on board a lot of negative messages about ourselves and what "love" means. Such experiences shape who we are, at times, in extreme ways: this is what often modern medicine define with psychopathology labels, depression, anxiety, and so on.

My work as a psychotherapist is primarily focused on understanding the social and relational context of a person, rather than simply the label they may come with—whether that’s anxiety, depression, OCD, or something else, and understand together what anxiety or depression is generated, relationally as the label is not a "disease" but an early life extreme adaptation to an extreme situation.

For instance, when someone comes to me with anxiety, I want to explore the relationships that may have contributed to it (such as learned high standards, rigid structures, dominant caregivers, or experiences of shame), as well as the relationships that are currently perpetuating it, or those that are currently providing support in their lives.

Having worked and lived for decades in an extremly high-performance, high-stress professional and social environment, I have developed a particular interest and skill in helping clients who experience pressure, anxiety, feelings of inadequacy, and who are seeking meaning in their lives and do something new to get new directions and expand possibilities.

As you might have understood, my passion is to support those who want to build healthier lives and relationships with their environments across all domains, and with themselves in order to find a different meaning and taste in their lives that is more authentic to the essence of who they are and want to be.

With humor, fierceness, and determination, my goal is to help my clients become more fully themselves in ways that work for them, ultimately creating a more satisfying and authentic life choices and directions.

Does any of this resonate with you?

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